I don't know how to reply to that.
Politics. Yes. Unavoidable. Bollocks. Everyone knows everyone and most people have fallen out at some point in the past. It's one of those awkward discussions. I'm not a believer in ignorance being bliss, but in martial arts I wish I was more naïve that I am. Life was easier that way.
My question is why you need to affiliate at all? Can you not be happily independent?
You're welcome to e-mail me on firstname.lastname@example.org
and we can exchange dog-and-bone numbers and I'll see if I can help. I went independent about four years ago and it was the best thing I ever did in martial arts. That said I do have a couple of affiliations, but only to groups to who provide background support and are very "hands-off."